A Man You Shall Be

Tomorrow, my youngest son turns 13.  His birth came at such a memorable time in my life. It was two days after Christmas and my marriage was in shambles. But God was with me!  God with us, who we celebrate at Christmas, was filling me with hope when I should have been in despair.  He was teaching me to trust him in the midst of betrayal.  He was teaching me that he sees me, he hears me and he gives me good gifts.  He gave me Ryland.  I think a lot about the fact that God gave me two sons.  My circumstances are less than ideal for raising men who love God.  I’m in one of those, “even if” marriages like first Peter says.  I fight depression.  I sin.  And I’m raising them in a culture that appeals to their flesh and makes it easy to become a slave… to anything.  At times I feel like my hope for my boys is impossible.  My hope that they’ll see the beauty and worth of Christ and follow him; my hope that they’ll be men who honor women and lead like servants and give like nothing belongs to them anyway and live like this world is not their home… these hopes seem impossible.  But with God, nothing shall be impossible!  My hope is in him for the sons I’m raising to be men.


A Man You Shall Be

by Sheila Dougal

Son tomorrow you turn thirteen

Lemuel’s mother’s words sting

I know ways that destroy kings

And the man that I’m raising


Hot tears in my eyes

Lump in my throat

I plead with the Lord

Another story be wrote


I know there’s no keeping you from sin

While still in my womb sin was within


But I am your mother

God gave you to me

To raise not a boy

But a man you shall be


I am His daughter

Saved by his grace

Granted faith in our Savior

Charged to show you His way


So when you’re tempted

And enticed by these three

Flesh’s cravings, Eye’s lusts, Pride’s possessions

I pray you’ll remember your mother’s decree

“You are a sinner, you need a Savior, and Jesus is he!”


Remember Whose you are!

You’re not your mother’s

Nor you’re father’s

And you’re not your own


You bear the Imago Dei

You were created for him

Not for yourself, your dad or me


It is God’s plan

That I raise you to be a man

Fully aware of the dangers ahead

I look to the God of Abraham


Though his body was good as dead

He believed God

Who always does what He says


He who was able to produce life out of old Sarah

Is able to produce fruit out of his daughter’s labor


He is faithful to generations of those who love Him

He who made you my son

Is able to keep

You, who He has entrusted to me


Seek him while you are young son

And don’t waste your life

Remember your mom’s faith

And put your hope in Christ!






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  1. A Man You Shall Be… that’s such a beautiful poem. Your sons are blessed by the teachings and especially the writings that you’re leaving for them. God bless you and your family.

  2. Great poem Sheila. I just found your site and I feel like I have found a kindred spirit. I too contend with a difficult marriage and in difficult financial circumstances. A son in college and daughter in high school. Aging parents. Thank you for your honesty in your struggles. That is rare and refreshing since most people don’t do that at all.

  3. Susan, thank you for sharing! We all walk through hard things in this life dont we! Praying for you tonight.

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