5 helps for hard, I mean, all marriages

In September my husband and I will have been married for 25 years.  And that's no testimony to our skill, secrets or practices.  We've done just about everything wrong.  And making it this long is no guarantee that we'll make it another 25 years.  When our friends ask how we'er doing, I tell them our… Continue reading 5 helps for hard, I mean, all marriages

These 8 words: My beloved is mine and I am his

"My beloved is mine and I am his..." Song of Solomon 2:16 So the people who know these things (at least the ones I've heard) say the Song of Solomon is about a husband and his wife.  It's a love story.  Others say its about Christ and his Church.  A love story.  I say yes.… Continue reading These 8 words: My beloved is mine and I am his

Common grace when you feel like you have nothing in common

I should be in bed but my other half likes to lay in bed and relax to YouTube videos of funny cats, and I want silence. I read Alia Joy Hagenbach's essay about the hospitality we must extend to one another in marriage. I feel the same. My marriage is an unlikely union. Even worse,… Continue reading Common grace when you feel like you have nothing in common

Hope grows where the light shines

The tension was thick. My husband and I sat opposite ends of a 6 foot couch and 23 years of piled up trouble from each other in a last ditch effort to save our marriage. "Well, what about you?  Your wife shared where she thinks some of her wrong thinking has come from. What do… Continue reading Hope grows where the light shines

Messages women need to hear from leading men in the conservative evangelical Church

Statements from the president of the Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary, Paige Patterson,  have stirred up a dark message I heard as a young girl and still hear as a 43 year old woman in the conservative evangelical American church. The message goes something like this: Being a Christ-like means being passive, quiet, soft-spoken...don't upset the apple… Continue reading Messages women need to hear from leading men in the conservative evangelical Church

My relationship with the Jesus I’ve never seen but love

If I was one of the disciples who followed Jesus while he walked on this planet, I would have been one he looked at and said, "Oh ye of little faith. Why do you doubt?" (Matthew 14:31, 6:30, 8:26, 16:8, 17:20). My faith-relationship with this Jesus I've never seen but love (1 Peter 1:8), is… Continue reading My relationship with the Jesus I’ve never seen but love

Living from a gospel-transformed identity

I've been wrestling with how to put to words what God has been teaching me about my identity from John 13 for the past year.  Yesterday I found someone with the words I've been looking for. In the Preparing our Hearts for Easter: A Lenten Devotional, day 38 titled, "The Washing" the author writes reflecting… Continue reading Living from a gospel-transformed identity

Ash Wednesday is a perfect Valentine.

I've grown thick-skinned after 26 hard years.  At seventeen this small-town girl met a big-city boy and fell into infatuation. After two years of dating, and three break-ups, I married that rebellious, out-of-town boy who walked into my life wearing torn and bleached blue jeans, long blonde hair and a pink corduroy hat.  After 24… Continue reading Ash Wednesday is a perfect Valentine.