Looking to Jesus with a plank in my eye

So often I catch myself mulling over concerns; wallowing in them like a pig in the mud, rolling over and over the worries I have for my loved ones.

I catch myself and come to my senses like the Prodigal Son and turn my face towards Home.

I remember the King who poured his life out and did not see the fruit of his labors pre-resurrection.

He had to be the loser first.

Yes, we must keep praying!

We must, I must, keep looking to Jesus with this plank in my eye, letting him teach me to remove it and love.

And then I have to get out there and die.

I have to lose.

I have to plant myself, and truth and grace, in the lives of those God has put around me.

And wait.

Cause I’m the farmer. I’m not the King.

And soon, and very soon, we are going to see the King!

And all will be well.


  1. Sheree A Miller says:

    Sheila, sister in Christ –
    The Spirit used this post to encourage my heart in a big way because I too need to keep giving my burden for unsaved loved ones to Him. Thanks for reminding me that I’m not the only Christian with this struggle.

  2. Sheila, I’ve been reading some of your content. I wonder if you can recommend any books about unequal marriages?
    I am also curious if you have come across any good content about relationships with mother-in-laws.
    Your writing has already been helpful to me, but also makes me sad because I realize that I may be in this for the long haul. Meaning: I am more aware that my husband may never come to Christ and may actually leave me. I worry that our children will be much harmed for the lack of connection or communication between my husband and I.
    Thank you so much for sharing your life and experiences.

    Autumn Kesuma

  3. Sheila Dougal says:

    Hi Autumn. Thanks for reaching out. I don’t have a book resource specifically about unequally yoked marriages. I have been helped by Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas and Boundaries in Marriage by Henry Cloud and John Townsend.

    I also don’t have anything for you in regards to relationships with mother-in-laws.

    I’m sorry I don’t have any resources for you there.

    I totally understand about the sadness that comes with the reality that marriage with an unbeliever could be a long road. All the advice or encouragement I have for you is get involved in a healthy, gospel drenched local church, if you’re able. Bring your kids if their young and still under your authority. Try to find common ground with your husband that you can both enjoy together. Pray pray pray and keep praying. And make it your life’s mission- whether your husband or kids believe and follow Christ or you get to keep your marriage or not- that it is not a waste of your life to spend your life letting Jesus teach you to love another well.

    May God bless you! This response comes with my prayers for you and your husband and children!


Leave a Comment

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.