As of today I’m 42.
Today is a mixed bag of emotions. The day started at 5:30 AM, which is an hour and a half sleep-in compared to the 4 AM wake up call on workdays. The baby goats are being separated from their mom’s at night to begin the weaning process, so when I walk the acre from our back door, under the stars, to the corral where they’re at, I’m greeted by 7 goat kids screaming, “MAAAAA!!”
I tiredly fed the baby girl (The 6 boys we have left I stopped bottle feeding in the morning. They seem to be getting what they need from their mom’s and will be weaned completely from milk by 2 months of age.) and then thought I’d sneak back into the house and sleep more until 7:30 and then come back and milk the momma goats, but I decided to just get the milking chores done and then nap after. The nap finally came at 12:30 after morning chores and a guy responding to our Craigslist ad for free mulch came to pick up a load… and I did some reading.
James put the boys to work yesterday and today for their first 2 days of summer break. Yesterday he had them purge every closet, cabinet and drawer in the entire house. Today he had them cleaning the back patio, garage and barn. They did good. I think they’re happier when they do hard work.
I, on the other hand, refrained from all chores and soap making today. I spent some time reading and thinking and praying about dear friends, broken relationships and people I care about with major things going on in their lives. I also decided to pull out the Jamberry gel nail kit I bought like 6 months ago and actually paint my nails. It put the nail in the coffin for me. I am not a nail person! I just don’t want to spend an hour of my life painting my fingernails. They do feel nice, but I feel a little like a cat feels when you put scotch tape on his paws.
The day started getting heavy when I got news that my grandpa Don passed away this morning. Grandpa Don has been married to my grandma Oleta since I was about 13. I was not close to him but I know he had a servant’s heart… always helping and serving my grandma and her kids and grandkids. For the last few years he’s had to live in a memory care facility due to his worsening Alzheimer’s disease. It’s been hard for my grandma Oleta not having him at home as she’s been struggling with a lung cancer diagnosis and her own health issues. I know my grandma is grieving the loss of her brother this week too. My heart is heavy for her. I wish I lived closer!
Grief is a hard thing. You don’t have to experience a physical death to experience grief. Divorce and betrayal can create the worst kind of grief… for more than just the couple and their immediate family. I tried to face that grief with vulnerability and love today in a very small way. Someone asked me why not just ignore it. I can’t. Love can’t. Forgiveness can’t. Ignoring it is just letting it fester deep inside.
Tomorrow I’ll start at 4 am and end at 9 pm with breakfast, a 12 hour shift at the hospital and a quick bite to eat in between. Repeat twice. Then I’ll be home for three days to plan the summer events with the boys, make soap and lotion orders, ship soap, hopefully sell some more bucklings, attend a Linear Appraisal from the ADGA and hopefully do a trip to the library.
I can easily fall into the trap of living under the tyranny of the urgent. I don’t want to though. Taking a day like today to rest from the normal business is a good way for me to look the Urgency Tyrant in the face and say, “God’s in charge. Not you.” I think that’s in the Bible somewhere. 🙂
Every year that passes I am becoming more and more in agreement with the heart cry in the prayer, “So teach us to number our days that we may gain a heart of wisdom!”